
Author Archives: Darrell Gurney
Author Archives: Darrell Gurney
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
If, at first, you don’t succeed…
then you’re probably on the road to growth and development.
We spend so much time planning and strategizing – IF we’ve even come that far with our countless ideas and splendid plans – that, once we actually launch/open for business/go live, there’s a lot of self-pressure to succeed.
Yes, success is sweet! And, many would-be flights crashed and burned before success touched Kitty Hawk.
So, can we be as excited about crashes, burns, fails, or even epic fails as we are about “success”?
There’s an old adage that success comes from good decisions; good decisions comes from wisdom; wisdom comes from experience; and experience comes from bad decisions.
Question is: are we willing to travel that path upward toward success?
Where can you take one of your recent “bad” decisions today and do a multi-level upgrade to success?
It may be “the road less traveled”…but you might as well leave your footprints on it.
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Got trying stamina?
“Behind every successful man there’s a lot of unsuccessful years.” – Bob Brown
“Every success story is a tale of constant adaptation, revision and change.” – Richard Branson
Change can definitely be said…
to be one of the most difficult challenges of life…right up there with moving, taxes and death.
The good news is that it’s possible — for everyone, in any situation, at any time.
The bad news is that it generally requires a big enough reason to make the choice to change, a heavy enough pound (or more) of flesh to be given if we don’t.
Often, it’s only after the flesh has been taken that the real cost of resistance to change is realized.
However, it’s possible to foment a crisis, when necessary, to make required changes.
The word “foment” means to instigate or foster, such as when one creates a rebellion.
Perhaps we don’t learn the art of making up crises until we’re forced to develop that ability…but it’s an important life skill to nurture.
So, just for the sake of a good workout — and for building a muscle you may not utilize as much as others — in what area of life could you foment a crisis for yourself today…to make an overdue and necessary change?
Throughout June, I’ll be offering discounts on certain career and life-enhancing online programs…so stay tuned. Grab today’s offer above to get a $30 discount on any career service, even some which are already at Summer Special rates. Use coupon code “$30OFF” for any service here.
Want a crisis supporter to help make a change? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of many ways to make necessary shifts.
Got enough reason to change?
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” – Leo Tolstoy
“An instant is sufficient. Miracles wait not on time.” – A Course in Miracles
Can enough be said…
about the juiciness of miracles?
Sometimes we hear that word in conversation and cautiously begin to distance ourselves, thinking someone may be getting on a woo-woo train.
Yet, who can’t point to an unplanned relationship, unexpected instance of good fortune, unforeseen occurrence or happenstance turning out to be the best thing that ever happened to them?
We could take the position that, hey, life is life and what comes our way, good or bad, is just the luck of the draw or the roll of the dice.
Yet, even quantum physics is proving these days that we get more of what we entertain in the mind. The “Law of Attraction” has been given scientific legs over the last couple decades.
So…what you gonna look for? Whatever comes, or what you want to see?
Everyone knows the old explanation for the Reticular Activation System (RAS): if you begin thinking you want to buy a Prius, what do you start seeing everywhere? Priuses!
The RAS is a bundle of nerves at the base of your brain that filters out the important information in your environment.
It’s why, when you learn a new word, you start hearing it everywhere. It’s why you can be in crowd full of talking people and instantly hear when someone says your name.
All this means that you can choose what you want to see and hear every day: reasons for why life is just, well, “life”…or reasons why life is a miracle.
I see and hear great things coming for you this summer. Do you?
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Got what you’re looking for?
“A miracle can make no change at all. But it can make what always has been be recognized by those who know it not.”- A Course in Miracles
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“Miracles happen every day, change your perception of what a miracle is and you’ll see them all around you.” – Jon Bon Jovi
Routine can be comforting…
and gives us a sense of stability, security and foundation. It helps us feel centered.
At the extreme, however, same ‘o same ‘o can slowly whittle away our sense of the miraculous.
Ever wonder why folks who engage in, say, a weekend inspirational workshop come out lit up and vibrant? It’s because their routine was broken up…and some awareness and mindfulness of the possibility of their life was put in.
Of course, without keeping the new mindset up and engaging in new structures or alternative routines, the old ways creep back…and we get back to knowing ourselves (and our life) in the same way we always have.
It takes work and diligent attention to live as if every day were a miracle. We have to wake ourselves up from the standard expectations of a standard day…all those standards of which satisfy our desire for security and comfort zones.
Fortunately or unfortunately — depending on how you look at it — some folks come close to exiting this life through some nearly-missed fatal health scare or accident. The close call wakes them up to the colors of the morning, the feel of hugging their loved ones, the grace of having a body that functions, the privilege it is to interact with friends and coworkers.
If we can learn from their experience, we can begin noticing the miraculous before we’re forced to.
What if experiencing the miraculous can come about simply by opening yourself up for one to occur for you today? What if it were that simple?
I’ll be watching alertly today, alongside of you.
Want some intentional support behind a miracle you’re wanting in your work, business, life? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of many ways to open the up pathways.
Got miracle mindedness?
“Miracles happen every day. Not just in remote country villages or at holy sites halfway across the globe, but here in our own lives.” – Deepak Chopra
The post May 29, 2019 – JOLT – Did you catch that miracle? appeared first on CareerGuy.com.
“In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion.” – Albert Camus
To step away from the machine…
is sometimes the most challenging move we can make.
There is ALWAYS another…
…call that could/should/would be made.
…project or follow-up that ought to be handled.
…hole in the dike or problem that should be managed.
…next-level vision or dream that needs to be implemented.
…and so on, and so forth, ad infinitum, ad nauseum.
We can become so hypnotized by the back-and-forth pocket watch of our work, business, routine, and schedule that the mere idea of retreating for sanity’s sake is quickly rationalized away as impossible.
But what’s possible inside a machine except more of the same? More of the same is never about possibility.
Think of it: a toaster’s job is to make toast. There’s no meaning involved for the toaster. It just makes toast.
Ideally, the difference between us and machines is that we can comprehend, appreciate, and be inspired by meaning.
A personal escape now and again — whether it be a 3-day silent retreat, a ski trip or hiking trek into the mountains, a regular walk on the beach every evening, or a simple 10-minute fresh-air flight from the cubicle — can reintroduce meaning to the machine.
Far better than a RE-treat, however, which implies going back, giving yourself a BE-treat makes you available for a less predictable future…because you’re more present.
How can you betreat yourself into the present today?
Wrangling the machine got you in a Matrix? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose services.
Got betreatment?
“He who retreats lives longer.” – Michael Scott
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“You are pre-paving your future experiences constantly by what you think and feel and say.” – Abraham-Hicks
To pave a road…
is to make it smooth, easy to travel, on stable, durable substance vs shifting sand and gravel.
The investment in paved roads pays off in multiple ways, with us getting to where we want to be quicker with less strain on the vehicle.
If we take a few minutes (or even an instant) to apply this principle to our day, an upcoming meeting, or even swallowing a big pill, we can similarly get where we want to be quicker with less strain on our mental, emotional, and physical vehicle.
On the pill front, I sometimes take valerian root at night to ensure good, restful sleep. It seems to only come in a big capsule form, and often gets stuck when I attempt to swallow one.
However, upon applying the simple principle of pre-paving only a moment before, visualizing the pill going down easily, feeling the feeling (ahead of time) of being already relaxed as it travels down my throat, I found that the big pill didn’t pose a problem anymore.
It’s a simple idea, but ask yourself, “Do I take the time to pre-pave before…
–I get out of bed in the morning, envisioning an awesome day of unique surprises?”
–I speak to my partner, child, parent, sibling, coworker, prospect, client, etc., feeling the feeling (ahead of time) of harmonious communication?”
–going into my doctor’s office, ex’s home to drop off the kids, or sales team meeting, already embodying good vibrations and anticipating good news?”
–the necessary interactions I’m required to have with that ‘big pill’ of a boss, landlord, opposing counsel or in-law, playfully imagining a completely unexpected moment of real connection?”
Look, we can all take life as it happens, or we can have an ever so slight (or heavy) hand in directing it.
To twist a Robert Frost poem, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less [rough], And that has made all the difference.”
Invest in your personal roadways today. It can make all the difference.
Need support smoothing out a rocky path? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose services.
Got personal roadwork ahead?
“Five or ten minutes in advance of pre-paving is a lot easier than 24 hours of trying to get your train back on track after it is derailed.” – Abraham-Hicks
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“It isn’t enough to think outside the box. Thinking is passive. Get used to acting outside the box.” – Tim Ferriss
It’s an easily thrown around phrase…
to “get outside the box” in one’s thinking and actions.
It’s touted by forward-thinking individuals intent to disrupt the status quo…and, for sure, there’s not a person on the planet who couldn’t stand a new approach in one or more areas of life.
Yet, easy to say, harder to do. Just think of where that box came from:
1) a bottom constructed on early-life experiences that had us make self-limiting decisions that went straight into our subconscious because we had no fully-formed prefrontal cortex
2) side panels built upon the wisdom and critiques downloaded onto us by those who “knew”
3) a top established by patterns of self-reinforcing beliefs and even chemical addictions within the body keeping the same thoughts and feelings about ourselves in place
4) many sharp corners from ingrained habits and even defensiveness arising from all of these parts coming together.
Whew!! Now that poses a bit more substance to be addressed when seeking to “get outside the box,” doesn’t it?
Look, it’s not ominous or impossible. Of course not. Society and our world progresses on the heels of ex-boxers.
Yet, it’s worthwhile to acknowledge the true, underlying dismantling and reconstruction work going on behind the scenes of ourselves when we take on such a mantle.
Who’s your favorite ex-boxer? What bottom, side, top or corner of your own box could you explore/dismantle to become more like them today?
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Got ex-boxer tendencies?
“Being able to ‘think outside the box’ presupposes you were able to think in it.” – Bob Lutz
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“Around here we don’t look backwards for very long… we keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things because we’re curious… and curiously keeps leading us down new paths. ” – Walt Disney
May 1 has historically been celebrated…
to honor life and fertility returning to the world – the entrance of spring after the long, cold winter.
So, today is traditionally about newness, moving forward, expansion, prosperity and renewal.
Did you have anything better in mind to do today??
What one area of your life will you consciously choose to approach or regard newly today?
Will you revitalize your plan of utmost contribution to your employer or business, and/or is it finally time for being curious about other options?
Will you re-engage the spice and passion in your relationship, and/or are finding new ways to accomplish that long overdue?
Will you reinstate or elevate your health and fitness goals, and/or explore avenues for even a more optimized body and mind?
Will you review and recommit to the financial plan that gives you peace of mind, and/or find entirely new levels of prosperity to blow up that plan?
Look, today is just a day, like any other day, to open a new door and chart a new path.
Nothing says you have to engage in a new initiative.
But, if you’re still reading this JOLT Note, and you’ve already put time and attention into it, why not have something to show for it in the next 5 minutes?
Keep it simple. Pick something! One thing. Infuse new life and curiosity into it. Open a renew door or chapter…not because it’s May 1, but because you’re simply right now choosing to do so.
I just opened the door. We’re walking, we’re walking, we’re walking…
Want to discuss an area of renewal? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services.
Got renew door?
“Old ways don’t open up new doors.” – Unknown
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“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” – Andy Warhol
An old Fram oil filter commercial…
had a mechanic speaking into the camera saying “You can pay me now, or you can pay me later.” They were encouraging regular oil changes to avoid major engine damage.
It highlights the fact that we’re all going, going, going…and it’s the squeaky wheels that get the grease. Unless they aren’t audibly squeaking, until they fall off.
Look, we’re all doing our best, for sure. And, managing the tide of squeaky wheels in life is enough of a chore itself. The already known issues to be resolved can fill our calendar.
And, at the same time, it pays to put a little effort toward detecting inaudible squeaks before they eat away the axle and leave us stranded by the side of the road.
Is your relationship in good shape? Whether yes or no, what do you have to gain but perhaps more mileage by doing an earnest and open check-in with your significant other?
Is your health vibrant? Whether yes or no, what do you have lose by getting that next-level checkup, fitness schedule or eating plan set up?
Is your career on track? Whether yes or no, how could it hurt you to grab a private one-to-one with your boss and show interest in how you’re performing? Much less, how smart might it be to ready yourself for a career shift right now even if you don’t see any writing on the wall?
In the career aspect of life, I always encourage people to, for sure, give 100% to whatever you’re doing now, wherever you’re doing it. Yet, somehow and somewhere, find another 10% to put toward managing your career beyond whatever you’re doing now, wherever you’re doing it.
Similarly, though you may have 100% of your troubleshooting in life focused on the squeaky wheels, it pays to find another 10% to put toward uncovering the silent one that’s ready to crack…and grease it forward.
Which life wheel does it pay to grease forward today, whether you think it needs it or not?
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Got grease it forward?
“The squeaky wheel doesn’t always get the grease. Sometimes it gets replaced.” – Unknown
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“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
Renewal often evokes…
a love/hate relationship.
On the one hand, we’re all inspired by the idea of rejuvenation and new possibilities.
On the other hand, renewal requires that something be given up and/or (literally or metaphorically) destroyed.
Consciously and proactively giving up the old (i.e., comfortable, known, routine, standard, regular, customary, accustomed, normal, usual, ordinary, established, typical…you get the point) for the new is not always easy.
It requires action, vs simply waiting for something to change.
Alas, and regardless, things will change on their own if not proactively steered, because we all know that shift happens.
But that kind of “renewal” is not always as pretty and inspiring as we’d like.
When out on major layoff assignments during The Great Recession of 2008-2009, I’d meet with employees just after they’d been riffed (reduction in force). Some would be highly distraught and even in tears.
I’d ask, “Did you ever think of something beyond this place in terms of your career?”
Too often they’d say “Sure, I’ve been wanting out of here for years”…even as they took another tissue from the box.
So, shift happened, and caught them broadside, instead of being in the driver’s seat.
Even though they’d been inspired to change for a while, it took circumstances to force that change. So, instead of a carefully planned and consciously designed renewal, it was messy and void of any direction.
Apply this to whatever area in which the shoe fits, but ask yourself: “If I don’t consciously renew in [X] area, what’s it going to look like in 6 months? Is that the picture I want? Does that inspire me?”
If the answers are “Not good” “No” and “No”…why not use this traditional season of revival and awakening to point a conscious renewal in that direction?
Wishing you all the best in this time of high renewal holidays.
If the career or business area is one in which a renewal is ripe, take advantage of the limited-time early-bird discount for The 2-Day Career Relaunch Workshop happening May 10-11 in Irvine, CA. Whether it’s a career change or new business strategy, a conscious renewal beats a bag of bricks any day.
Got conscious renewal?
“There are some things one can only achieve by a deliberate leap in the opposite direction.”- Franz Kafka
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