“Fall seven times, stand up eight.“ – Japanese Proverb
In a couple more days…
many folks won’t be referencing their New Years resolutions or how this year will be different…because the towel has already been thrown in.
None of us want to be reminded of our seeming inadequacies or failures, so we’ll just change the subject or find a way to laugh it off.
But, what if actually failing — time after time after time after time — is actually your only access to the changes you want?
So, maybe developing a new relationship with crawling back up is where to develop our skills this year, vs trying so hard to not trip or teeter to avoid falling down.
What if it’s the number of times you get up — and the cultivated grace, finesse and confidence with which you do so — that will be the barometer of your growth in 2020?
See you on the downside!
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Got skilled downsiding?
“What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” – Lionel, Maid in Manhattan
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“New weapons require new tactics. Never put old wine into new bottles.” – Heinz Guderian
For another few weeks, probably,
we will all continue to hear references to starting the New Year in a new way.
I’ll likely wind down my own references to it soon, and then, as mentioned in a JOLT two weeks ago, we’re back to the fact that we’re ALWAYS in the midst of change and improvement ALL the time…not just at the flip of a calendar page.
As that change is taking place continually, the scriptural reference to putting new wine in old bottles could not be more relevant and worthy of consideration.
Did you put your New Year goals and intentions inside of an old you, with the same beliefs and ways of operating as you had last year?
If so, consider this a wake up call…before all that luscious new wine of hopes and dreams ends up all over the floor.
An old you can’t hold or ferment a new result.
So, as those new goals start pressing against the walls of the old you bottle, know that the goals are not the challenge…but the re-bottling of you may be.
For this year, rather than cast aside your intentions when they seem to be going nowhere, look instead to where and how you can design a new bottle in which to let them brew.
And, even if old the bottles must break at times, an ongoing commitment to re-bottling will mean that at least some new wine will be created in this New Year of New You.
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Got re-bottling efforts?
“It is an age of stir and change, a season of new wine and old bottles. Yet, assuredly, in spite of breakages and waste, a wine worth the drinking is all the time being made.” – John Galsworthy
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“Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” – Helen Keller
Self trust is a golden quality to cultivate…
and not enough can be said about developing a sense of inner guidance and self-championship.
However, there’s also something to be said for recognizing one’s own human-ness when it comes to the daily engagement with the ego.
Not to bash the ego, because ambition and drives are part of what moves people and life forward. However, the ego often has a very tricky way of keeping our “self” safe and comfortable…and sometimes inside our “own private Idaho.”
The ego generally drives us for more and better, but can often sabotage our efforts by attachment to old ways of seeing the world, worn out and familiar challenges, or limiting beliefs in our capabilities.
If you or I want to accomplish something we’ve never done before, we simply must act differently and think differently than we have before…and those changes don’t happen inside our comfy, fixed-beliefs bubble.
The answer? Masterminding and accountability.
No matter how smart and effective you already are (or aren’t), there’s only one direction that earnest, vulnerable, and open-kimono engagement with others in a mastermind setting can take you: progress.
Opening the kimono and being willing to reveal your rawness, because it goes against the ego’s desire to “look good,” is a hurdle…but a blessing.
Getting input outside of your own, internal committee of “best thinking” can be challenging…but liberating.
And, committing to another person certain actions you’ll take to move yourself forward — with a “by when” — is a secret key to real growth.
So, given that you are now 1/24th complete with 2020, ask yourself, “Am I serious about these 2020 goals? How will I get the new information I need to support their achievement? And, who will hold me accountable for making the baby steps to get there?”
Find a group. Join a group. Start a group. Masterminding accountability: it does a goal good.
Miss the New Year/New You starting gun? Already have a New Year/New Decade busily in full swing…with seemingly no time to get freshly goaled up? No worries, there’s still time.
For a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a committed listener (and questioner) involved.
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“None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Ken Blanchard
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“The preparation for the ritual is the ritual.“ – Kate Green
So, now that the annual ritual…
of reflecting, recollecting, reconstituting, resolving and renewing ourselves from one year to the next is behind us, where do we go from here?
Forward. Always forward.
And, ritual or not, that’s the only direction we’re ever going. Yet, how cool is it that life created an arbitrary and invented break in eternity called the “New Year” so as to give us a stop in the regular action for such a valuable game huddle.
Now, just like it was before December, our goal is to keep playing and finding new ways to bring our best-is-yet-to-come onto the field.
A couple helpful concepts to remember, as you bring about the New You/New Year/New Decade, are…
Compassion: remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day…nor will your New You show up after only a week of being in the 2020 arena. (HINT: if you’re really intent on meeting a totally unrecognizeable You this year, he/she will likely only show up in 11 months or so.)
Baby Steps: a pyramid started first with an idea, then with a lot of ingenious thinking of how to get big boulders down a river and across hot sands, and then a system of construction, etc. If you’re interested in creating something to last, accept and nurse the baby steps it will take.
Team: keeping all those acts of initiative and creation to yourself is one sure way to have them fail. “There is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans”…and that is that your commitment to yourself alone will be weaker than your word given to another. Have a team hold you accountable for what you say you want to accomplish.
2020 has arrived. See you at the races!
Miss the New Year/New You starting gun? Already have a New Year/New Decade busily in full swing…with seemingly no time to get freshly goaled up? No worries, there’s still time…and getting support will help!
For a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a committed listener (and questioner) involved.
And for a virtual team of players to hold your goals and commitments in check, find out about the upcoming PlayGame Mastermind Accountability Alliance here.
Got ritualized and forward-fitted you?
“We make ourselves up as we go.” – Kate Green
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