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August 28, 2019 – JOLT – Slap in the face or on the back – you choose!

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“Make finding the good in others a priority.” – Zig Ziglar

We can all get so busy…

that seemingly very small, human-decency considerations can fall through the cracks.

And yet, when we happen to be on the side of needing a little help, compassion, uplift or supportive forgiveness, we sure appreciate such consideration.

I think it’s pretty clear by now — to those of us who got the memo — that nobody is perfect. We’re all going to have our good days of highest Self expression as well as our not-so-good days of dealing with the smaller self.

But the idea of “keeping one’s side of the street clean” at all times, I believe, creates a space in which others can find it in themselves to make room for our imperfections.

When we’re jumping on the foibles, missteps, and lapses in greatness of others, for sure we set ourselves up for a non-compassionate backlash when we, as the yet-ascended masters which we are, show up as less than polished.

But, when we contribute from a spirit of service, and are quick to acknowledge when we make the inevitable mistakes (aka “learning experiments”) that any player-in-pursuit-of-greatness will make, the backlash often turns into a back slap of “Don’t worry about it. You go guy/gal. Get out there on the field and keep playing!”

So, in the midst of our days of doing our best — which, I believe, is what all of us are actually trying to do with what we know in the moment — can we make room for the blips in greatness of others in the same way we appreciate our own blips being indulged?

Where can you offer a supportive back slap to someone who may not being playing their best-Self game today? As the old adage says…”what goes around comes around.”

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Got back slapping support?

“When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.” – John Spence

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August 21, 2019 – JOLT – For the seeming self-sufficient: a remedy outside of yourself

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“Deliberately seek the company of people who influence you to think and act on building the life you desire.” – Napoleon Hill

If we’re really honest…

we know that we often can’t count on ourselves.

Sure, overall, we do a decent job of meeting our obligations and responsibilities. We’re well-meaning and, often, very hard-working folks.

However, when it comes to seeing our own blind spots, discerning our own excuses, and distinguishing our own die-hard (though perhaps masked) commitment to staying in our comfort zones…we aren’t equipped! We simply rarely see, and even more rarely shift, our own limiting thoughts, beliefs and actions by ourselves.

So, when it comes to fulfilling on your own initiatives, good ideas and intentions to grow and expand, it’s a lot like “cobbler’s shoes”: you can dole out helpful input and put fire under the butt of others, but you often can’t or won’t do so for yourself…just like the cobbler and his/her kids who always have the worst shoes in town.

Remedy? Well, there’s a few…and yet they all involve getting outside your own views of yourself, your situations, and your lot in life to become “coachable.”

One remedy might be to get a coach, because a coach can see about you what you can’t: where you stop, where your beliefs keep you in a box, where you sell out on your goals for playing safe, etc.

Another might be to have an action buddy, because when you have a regular person with whom you commit to taking actions — to move your goals forward — you’re more likely to actually do what you say. Otherwise, your action buddy moves on…because you’re simply all talk and no action.

Yet another might be to join a mastermind and accountability group, because tapping into the “master” mind — that body of insight, ideas and wisdom outside of you — and being held accountable to take action by an entire group…well that’s, as they say, a whole ‘nother ballgame.

So, the question for today is: which remedy is best for your ailing goals?

I’d offer to you to simply pick one and get started. Heck, if you’re really up for becoming who you’re meant to be in this lifetime, you might do a remedy trifecta: betting on all three, you simply can’t lose!

But, I’ll bet without betting on at least one, you’ll come up short of what’s truly possible for you.

Summer Discount Extended! My core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to intentionally grow here.

Also, if you’re local to Long Beach, CA, I’ll be starting up a small mastermind group shortly. Reach out to me quickly if interested…like today!

Got a remedy outside of yourself?

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” – C.S. Lewis

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August 7, 2019 – JOLT – Dark knights are your best best growth buddies

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“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” -Eric Butterworth

The first big choice…

is whether you want to grow: as a person, in your business, your relationship, your health, etc.

It’s easy to simply say “Sure!” because it seems like the right/moral/honorable direction to go. But a conscious growth choice requires more consideration.

Real growth vs lip-service has a catch: you’ll have to get uncomfortable.

And that too becomes something we often nonchalantly respond to with “of course!”…but when the friction, challenge, adversity, or time-under-tension increases, we sometimes forget that we chose this!

How often do we envision our growth coming from some fortunate breakthrough, turn of favorable events, or white knight showing up at our doorstep?

Mind you, if you’re going to vision, it’s best to throw mental darts toward the targets you want.

Yet, realizing that what actually shows up in your experience — IF you’ve really taken on a conscious intention toward growth — is exactly and perfectly what you need…that’s what separates the growers from the dart throwers.

Your empowering exercise for today, should you choose to accept it, is to briefly analyze an area of your life in which you’ve expressly stated that you want to grow and to see the perfection in everything that’s come your way other than what you envisioned or expected.

Inside of a context of intentional growth, the seeming dark knights you confront are actually the first assists toward reaching your desires.

Summer Discount Extended! My core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to intentionally grow here.

Got a dark knight assist?

“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” -Abraham Maslow

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