“When people tell you you’ve changed, it’s only because you stopped acting the way they want you to act.” – Unknown
Most of us want to grow but, at the same time…
feel subtly constrained by the environment we created while we were being who we used to be.
Think of it this way. You want to grow, so you pursue growth. Ideally, that growth produces a new and improved version of you.
However, you bring that new and improved you out into the world in which you’ve lived the previous you — the relationships that still exist, the job or business that still exists, the community or connections that still exists — and that environment is so used to the old you that it gets thrown off by the new you…and maybe even resists the new you.
On the one hand, real friends will always advocate and support your growth. But, even with real friends, there’s an adjustment period…because we’re all initially caught unawares by change. As personally developed as we can be, there’s still a part of us that looks for steady and predictable in the people and things around us.
On the other hand, fair weather friends will be gone, in a continual and futile search for that which is changeless.
So, if you’re gonna grow,
you gotta know
that your existing environment may flow
when you tell them what’s so.
You trained your environment to interact with you the way that it currently does. When you change, retraining your environment is simply part of the package.
Understanding the necessary changes that your personal growth brings about in your environmental structures is just part of the game…yet it pays to know going in. But would you, could you, have it any other way?
I have a personal investment in today’s message in that I, too, will start showing up a bit differently as CareerGuy and our services grow to best meet your needs and desires.
Last week, I conducted a survey of our CareerGuy community of subscribers, to learn what you most want and need. Thanks to all who contributed, and Chris Kauffman was our gift card winner. (If your voice wasn’t heard, you can still speak up for a limited time here.)
As we culminate a decade and move into a new one in only a few short weeks, I’ll be changing things up a bit in how I deliver what I have to best serve your career, business and personal interests.
What environment of your own can you shake up today as a testament to your own growth? And who do you want to show up as in the next decade to come?
If you’re up for some shaking and stirring of the elements of your career or business moving forward, schedule a session here. Sometimes a master mixologist is all you need.
Got growth-induced environmental shakeup?
“People say to me ‘You’ve changed.’ and I say ‘Haven’t you?’ People change. It’s just life.” – Jake Bugg
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“Embrace reality even if it burns you.” – Pierre Berge’
There’s this place called a Private Idaho...
that many of us can find ourselves living in.
For the sake of believing what we want to believe, operating in a way that suits us, and staying in our warm and comfy zones, there’s no better place to be.
However, if you care about anything outside of your silo, your own Private Idaho is the bad part of town…because there’s no information getting through. All means of communication with the outside world are locked down by egoic, totalitarian rule.
That may all sound so broad and poetic, but let’s just look at our jobs, our businesses, and our relationships. Do we really know how we are being perceived by the boss, the spouse/significant other, the employees, or the customers? Not if we don’t ask.
The rub with asking is that we may hear something we don’t like. That’s the egoic, totalitarian rule: fear. We all like good feedback vs bad. Yet, is not knowing worth the pain that comes from only finding out later that we coulda/woulda/shoulda benefited from input way earlier on?
Here’s the short and sweet message today, just like the mini-survey below: take an area of your life which you consider most crucial and solicit some feedback.
“Just wanted to check in: is there anything I should know or anything you’ve been thinking to communicate with me that you haven’t?”
The trick is, ask…and then shut up and listen. Don’t argue, don’t debate, don’t fix, and don’t even respond with anything but “Thank you. I appreciate your honest input.”
Brave enough to play? Wise enough to play? Let’s see what surprises and unexpected opportunities lie in store for you today!
Please take literally a minute to answer 7 brief questions to help us best serve you…and enter to win a $25 Amazon gift card as a thank you for helping us out. Take the mini-survey here.
Got mini-surveyed reality check?
“The road to success is always under construction.” – Lily Tomlin
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“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” – Warren Buffett
There’s always talk about self-limiting beliefs…
but what about self-limiting habits?
We could say that beliefs and habits are intertwined in that one’s beliefs may reflect in their habits.
The problem with rising from either is that you mostly never realize when your self-limiting beliefs are dictating life, nor do you notice when you’re in the process of acting out your self-limiting habits.
It’s those beliefs and habits taking place unconsciously that can never be healed.
So, what do you do if you want to grow to be a bigger person today than you were yesterday?
Wake up to what’s unconscious! Begin to notice when beliefs and habits are playing out…and stop there!
The “stop there” part is critical because, otherwise, you use your adroitly gained insight as a hammer to slam down the tiny opening to freedom you just gained.
The worst thing you can do when you notice an old belief or pattern that no longer serves you is to judge and bash yourself for still having that damn belief or pattern.
The very reason you still have it is because every time it’s shown up to reveal more about itself — so you can understand, appreciate and embrace it — you made it feel like public enemy #1.
(Believe it or not, it was actually birthed inside of an effort to protect you and keep you safe.)
To actually ever heal a persistent belief or habit, it first takes consistent, non-judgmental awareness when as it shows up over and over and over again.
It helps to simply consider visits from age-old, limiting patterns and beliefs to be a sign that you’re becoming more awake and free. With that greater awareness, those once frequent visitors may actually realize — without any forcefulness from you — that they’ve worn out their stay.
What you resist persists. What rusty old habit can you observe and embrace today?
Woken habits is the first stage to moving beyond them. So, be grateful when you catch yourself doing it yet again!
If an age-old habit is waiting until things have gone awry in career or business to get help, notice it…and then schedule a private session here.
Got woke habits?
“I learned to be with myself rather than avoiding myself with limiting habits; I started to be aware of my feelings more. rather than numb them.” – Judith Wright