You win some, you learn some…
and, therefore, you always win.
Easy to say, yet requires a mountain of growth to live. . .ESPECIALLY as we mature in life (aka, grow older).
The tendency in later years is to avoid trying something new until we feel assured we’re going to win, because we don’t want to “look bad” or fall on our face. Saving “face” is everything. . .so we end up not even trying.
But that makes life more the same, or even less. We shrink rather than grow. We climb inside a proverbial “box” versus continue to find our greater and greater Self expression.
Seriously: look at any area of later-in-life living and check to see if folks are taking chances and continuing to learn or playing it safe while “looking good” and you’ll find a lot more on the safe side.
If you’re interested in more Self expression — in your career, in your relationships, in your health & fitness, in your finances, in your dreams and purpose — then, at some point, you have to start taking chances, playing “first” (before you have the i’s dotted and t’s crossed), and assuming the risk of winning by learning.
Choose the Blue Pill, stay safe. Choose the Red Pill, face exciting uncertainty and grow.
If the latter appeals to you, I encourage you to take advantage of the last hours of the pre-order campaign for The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half, my newest book available until tonight at 8pm PST at https://publishizer.com/the-back-forty/
Should I have waited until Covid and the world’s chaos had passed to launch this pre-order campaign? Maybe. . .but that’s retrospective Blue Pill living. The Back Forty is about the courage to take risks later in life to become who we came here to be and do what we came here to do. And that only happens by getting on the playing field.
You’ll find lots of bonuses available with your pre-order if you get it in today, which I’m DOUBLING for these last hours (1 coaching session becomes 2, etc.). And, we will get to start playing together immediately as we move into the New Year to not only make-over ourselves but help to make over our world.
See the bonuses (you’ll get DOUBLE what you see), pick an option to receive the only ever first-run autographed copy of The Back Forty in the New Year, and let’s start Red Pill living together!
CareerGuy and Back Forty Freedom Flier
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“You take the blue pill…the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill…you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.”
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|“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
A Holiday Gift of thinking differently…
about your past year, your year to come, and your remaining years ahead.
Here’s a free excerpt from the introduction to The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half, my newest book available for pre-order for one more week at https://publishizer.com/the-back-forty/
This excerpt speaks to the supposed limitations of our past (2020) as well as the higher possibilities of our future (2021 and beyond) when we approach life from a point of view of “staging” for our bigger game ahead of us.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on the blog, where you can also read the excerpt in its entirety here.
Below is an excerpt from The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half
The Lay of the Land
The Back Forty is a metaphor with a double meaning. It is a creative allusion to the second half of life, whether that second half will actually span thirty, forty, fifty, or even sixty years to come. It is also a reference to the farming term that means an uncultivated forty-acre patch of land with infinite growth potential that lies in a remote, back area of the farm.
Regardless of your particular age, you might call your first half of life “The Front Forty.” In that first half, you’ve experienced uniquely individual events with “stuff” happening to you that may have fostered a mindset of limitation shaping the way you see your life moving forward.
The Back Forty proposes that your Front Forty, first half of life, is all about research and development (R & D) and that you don’t, and even can’t, begin your true purpose until you’ve completed that R & D.
Further, The Back Forty asks you to embrace the concept that nothing that has ever happened to you could limit you in any way from being who you came to be or doing what you came to do in this lifetime. It asserts that your Front Forty has been absolutely perfect and exactly what you needed to have happen to put you on the path of your own unique, individual and radical second half.
This bold attitude—that absolutely nothing that has ever occurred in your life has any negative bearing on what is to come—is, indeed, a radical way to live. It is in direct opposition to society’s cultural conversation about aging and defies our conscious and subconscious belief systems, which have been shaped by a subtle, societal depiction of a bell-curve model of life. Society asserts that we gradually rise and supposedly peak at some point of “the best life has to offer us” (and that we have to offer life), and then we begin a slow decline. This viewpoint I call the “Down and Out Model.”
As we age, this “Down and Out” belief system forecasts that we become less creative, less vibrant, less bold, less risk-taking, less vital, less energetic, less entrepreneurial, less playful and all around less (not more) of who we truly are.
Problems abound with that picture. Inside that anti-climactic model, we are left disappointed and depressed when we realize, only after the fact, that our prime came and went without notice or celebration because we weren’t even aware of when we had supposedly “peaked.” A second problem is that the assertion is actually not true, but simply a bunch of BS (belief system) that covertly shuts down the greater Self-expression still available within us.
In contrast, The Back Forty says life is not an eventual decline but rather a shooting out the top in a radical, contrary “Up and Out Model.” The Back Forty asserts that all the creativity, vibrancy, boldness, risk-taking, vitality, energy, and playfulness of your past was only the warm-up and precursor to your future. . .with no final peaks assumed.
Mind you, I’m not simply throwing out warm and fuzzy motivational or Pollyanna ideas. What if, truly, your biggest game is still ahead of you, no matter what your age or what you’ve been through? That is exactly what The Back Forty way of thinking proposes, which many are beginning to align with. The Back Forty says no matter what you have or have not accomplished your growing number of years on the planet serve a function of staging rather than aging.
In the world of theatre, staging is the carefully planned preparation for a production. The Back Forty proposes that, just as in theatre, everything in your life is constructed and laid out for the big “play” yet to be performed. This dynamic is occurring continuously with yesterday supporting today and tomorrow. Using another metaphor, in the field of rocketry staging refers to the in-flight separation of sequential stages (pieces) from a multi-stage rocket. Each stage does its job to propel the rocket. Similarly, the more the previous stages of your life do their job and drop away, the higher you’ll fly. This Back Forty adventure will reveal that the past has done its job and now you can shoot upwards without any previously perceived weight.
What would staging gracefully versus aging gracefully be like for you? I don’t know specifically, but I do know that it would definitely include your stepping up and into greater possibility.
For those of us coming into the second half of life with perhaps few victories or not much of a foundation under our feet (those of us truly beginning right now), the idea that literally anything is possible from here on out is hugely exhilarating. And, even if you’ve already amassed so many accomplishments and such abundance of wealth and satisfaction in your life that you don’t need to do a damn thing in your remaining years, what might be possible if you actually believed that the first half was simply a prelude to your truest Self-expression yet to come? Could you envision an even bigger game still to be played?
Radical thoughts! Thus, the idea of a “Radical Second Half.”[The above is a copyrighted excerpt from The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half, available for pre-order with free bonuses until Dec 22, 2020 at https://publishizer.com/the-back-forty/.]
Check out the valuable pre-order bonus specials now — including a FREE 3-part masterclass, online programs, and one-on-one consultations with me — and let’s adopt a powerful, alternative mindset to designing life in the year, and years, to come. It won’t happen naturally. But it can happen with an intentional staging mindset for our greater games ahead.
CareerGuy and Back Forty Freedom Flier
|Got staging for 2021?
“Our world is not shaped by those who think similarly, but by those who dare to think differently.”
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|“Turn your adversity into building blocks for the palace of your dreams.”
This is the traditional time of year…
when we take steps to reflect on our past year and design our next one.
But, holy heck and whoaaaaa! 2020 looks pretty gnarly in the rear view mirror, and not necessarily a reflection we enjoy pondering!
Nonetheless, in the traditional sense of new beginnings, there is a future to be created for what lies ahead.
In two interviews last week, entitled “Taking a Back Forty Approach to a Radical 2021,” I shared how we might reflect in a constructive way on 2020 so as to help point us in the direction we want to go in the new year. View or hear those interviews HERE and HERE.
Here’s how you might implement this mindset of The Back Forty even now, in the midst of these very challenging, pandemic times, to point you in a new direction for 2021.
A. Rather than see yourself as a victim to this past year, what if you can shift your perspective? Crazy question, but what are the blessings that have come out of the last nine months of a pandemic-impacted world? Force yourself to write down 10 blessings. For example:
1. Got closer with my kids/husband/wife as we spent more time together vs our former running around crazy
2. Became even more in touch with family because we had more zoom connections vs relying on the face-to-face of the past
3. Took more time to really evaluate my life and do some great introspection that, in the regular run of life, would never have happened
4. Made some career and life decisions that, in the end, will likely prove smart
[Your Turn. . .]
B. If the whole Covid-19 experience of the last year was simply a wake-up call or one big “experiment,” what would it have been for? What might you have been exploring that had you go through this? What was the purpose behind this “experiment” for you? For example:
a. Slow down and refocus
b. Balancing my peace of mind with my peace of the pie
c. Gratitude for the simple things in life
[Your Turn. . .]
C. How can you now live your life in such a way that those blessings and purpose create a new direction or trajectory for your life in moving forward? How does this situation give you marching orders for how you’ll now live a fuller, richer and more purposeful life? For example:
* Relationships FIRST!
* Find Gratitude Every Day!
[Your Turn. . .]
The Back Forty: 7 Essential Embraces to Launch Life’s Radical Second Half proposes that, to the degree that you can own and not be a victim to the serious and significant events and influences of your life’s path, you are freed up to move forward with more power, purpose and self-expression. The courage to think differently, to take an alternative mindset to the natural feeling of victimhood in these times, can have you be more powerful as you create and move into your New Year ahead.
Check out the valuable pre-order bonus specials now — including a FREE 3-part masterclass, online programs, and one-on-one consultations with me — and let’s adopt a powerful, alternative mindset to designing life in the year to come. It won’t happen naturally. But it can happen with intent.
CareerGuy and Back Forty Freedom Flier
|Got mindset alternatives?
“If you can change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
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